Past is Passed
So lately I met this new individual and as I always do, I attempted to learn about her past and did it in the most direct way by asking about events from her past and she replied in the most direct way that it's none of my business. I mean, she didn't literally say that but that was my interpretation.
I believe as a toxic overthinker, I rely heavily on the past and future and not on the present. Positively, the key is in the balance but tbh I spent too much of my life dealing with the same shit over and over that at this point I'm just tired of wrestling with the past.
A couple of nights ago, I had an intense discussion with my friends regarding certain topics and after that, I went through this whole Cold War bs that was precisely me acting like they don't exist and they acting like I don't exist. I nearly cut ties with another friend as the consequence of that argument and in the funniest way possible, I bumped into three of them during the last 24 hours. I recalled the whole conversation with the first person I mentioned in this post (my approach to not use any name is awesome I know) and I was like "Do I really need this tension?" and since the answer was a big NO, I approached them in different ways and peaced it up.
I think this was another lesson for me to understand there's no good in dragging the past into your present and ruining it in a most outlandish way so let's say I'm glad that exact person I mentioned in this post (my approach to not use any name is awesome I know - part 2) indirectly told me to move on from the past and just appreciate what you have in the present.